I used to write essays about this topic.
During high school,
I wrote about the rituals of different races with their superstitious beliefs.
During college time,
I wrote about the spiritual effects of superstitious into these people's life.
Today, I would like to write about how it affects real life situations.
In Chinese culture,
normally the superstitious beliefs are applied on major events,
and are normally believed that it will affect your future.
Chinese superstitious are usually related to days, date and time.
Some people believe that certain days of the week,
and certain months of the year are better than others for a certain events.
For example, wedding, moving into a new house, naming babies, or even funeral.
People with superstitious beliefs normally visit a fortune teller to ask for so called "Best day" for that particular event.
However, there are some people hold onto family traditional's beliefs.
The problem comes when an event holding is involving 2 different parties/ families.
Different parties/families have different superstitious beliefs.
What happen is the plan of the event or its preparation can't be carry on when there's a crash on beliefs
-The "Best Day" of one parties might be the "Bad Day" of the other.
Negotiations can be done when this situation occurs.
It's good if one party doesn't mind to compromise.
But what if both hold on to it?
A lot of time when this situation happened it makes things worse.
Both parties or one of it will be unhappy about it.
The original meaning of following the superstitious is hope to bring good to the future.
But if because of holding on to it causing quarrel and end up with an unhappy ending,
wouldn't it the beliefs has loose its meaning?
It brings harm more then good!
Not sure what is the answer of above questions.
Although I have never really faced this kind of problem.
but I can actually understand its irritating when things cant be done due to those superstitious beliefs.
I know it's not good to criticize one's belief,
but most of the time it is proven that the superstitious belief doesn't change your luck and future anyhow.
I have seen people married during their so called "Best Day" ending up with divorce,
and I have seen people moving into their new house during a so called "Bad Day" having successful and happy life.
I believe that the luck will not fall from sky to you, you gotta work on it.
Even salvation in Christianity requires people to obey the commandment.
Nothing in this world is free.
Maybe I'm not a "Pantang" person.
(pantang is superstitious in malay language).
However, I always think that the most important thing is everyone is happy,
and the event and its preparation still can carry on peacefully.
